Today Karen shares 3 destructive patterns in the life of a perfectionist. She and Emily chat about the burden a parent carries when they pursue perfection, and Karen offers tangible, practical things that we can each do this week to switch our focus from perfection to doing our best.
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To say moms are busy these days is an understatement. Most of us keep a pace that just isn’t sustainable. It’s non-stop from the minute your alarm goes off until your head hits the pillow at night. So today Karen and Emily are talking about how to set the pace for your family. Karen shares two specific problems she sees happening in families because of busyness and as always, we’ll wrap up with tangible, PRACTICAL things you can do this week to set a better pace for your family.
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When our kids are young, we have to do everything for them. But as they grow up, some moms get stuck continuing to do for their kids what they can and ought to do for themselves. Today Karen encourages us all to take a step back so our kids can step up, and suggests appropriate tasks for our kids to “own,” whether they are 6 or 16. Don’t miss the connection between kids who take ownership and confident kids!
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Did you know BOAW has a monthly podcast available exclusively on Patreon? Well, we do! Real Life, Real Mom subscribers get an extra dose of Karen each month. Listen in today as Karen's oldest daughter, Kelsey, opens up about her family, her faith, and her walk with God. (Psst - you might want to grab a tissue before listening!)
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Your child was uniquely formed by God before he or she took their first breath. When we approach a child with their uniqueness in mind, we can parent more effectively. Join Karen and Emily as they discuss temperaments and love languages and show us how we can use these lenses to study our child and parent them in wisdom.
Mentioned on this episode:
Survival Guide to Motherhood by Karen Stubbs
Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer
Birth Order book by Kevin Lehmen
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Discipline might just be the most critical survival skill a mom can have! Whether you have toddlers or teens in the home, this episode gives practical steps you can take to focus on discipline this week. Listen for Karen's 3 stages of discipline and learn what each stage requires from parents. This is a great episode for dads to tune in to as well!
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Our family began with our marriage, and hopefully our marriage will be there long after the kids move out! Today we’re digging into the next chapter of Karen’s new book, Survival Guide to Motherhood - How to Stay Connected To Your Spouse. Listen in for Karen’s marital wisdom on respect, expectations, sex, and the idea of “choosing love.”
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Past episodes on sex + motherhood: WT 131 with Dr. Mike Sytsma, WT 165 with Juli Slattery
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We sacrifice all the time as a mom, and if we’re not careful, we can lose ourselves in the process. This week we’re discussing the next chapter of Survival Guide to Motherhood- Know How To Keep Your Sanity.
Karen reminds us of the importance of paying attention to our health and gives practical tips for keeping healthy in 4 different aspects of life, which will in turn, keep us from losing our minds as we raise our child!
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Chapter 1 of SGTM: Know How To Get Through the Day
Chapter 2 of SGTM: Know How To Take Charge of Your Home
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Karen’s Self Talk curriculum
Karen’s daily devotional and prayer journal for moms
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We’re in the second week of diving into Karen’s new book: Survival Guide to Motherhood. Today we’re unpacking Karen’s accumulated wisdom on taking charge in your home. If you are struggling with a home that seems to have been taken over by a surly teenage attitude or by a tyrannical toddler, this episode is for you! Don't miss Karen's practical tips for taking back charge so you feel at ease and at peace in your own home.
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Chapter 1 of Survival Guide to Motherhood: Know How To Get Through the Day
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Dive in to Karen's brand-new book, Survival Guide to Motherhood, with us today! We are digging deep into the first chapter, Know How to Get Through the Day. This one is for new moms, for whom each day can feel like a lifetime, and for seasoned moms, who face unanticipated challenges almost every season. You're going to love Karen's perspective on choosing joy daily!
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Today friend of BOAW and family therapist, David Thomas, joins us in the studio to talk about our boys and their emotional health. He shares practical wisdom for how parents can equip boys with the tools they need to understand and manage their emotions. Don’t miss David sharing who we can look to as the ultimate blueprint for masculinity!
Mentioned on this episode:
Wire Talk #140 with David Thomas - The Emotional World of Kids
Grab a copy of David's new book - Raising Emotionally Strong Boys
Accompanying workbook - Tools Your Son Can Build on For Life
Motherhood is a journey, and it’s often a lonely one. Today we’re talking about taking one step to create the community that you are craving - starting a moms group. We are answering your questions about what that could look like and giving you encouragement to go for it!
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More episodes on starting a group: WT 143, WT 193
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We are wrapping up our reading of the Christmas Story today in chapter 2 of Luke. I think you’ll enjoy re-visiting this famous birth story through fresh eyes as we unpack Luke’s words verse by verse.
Questions for Reflection:
What is God doing in my life that I need to be treasuring in this season?
Do you need to ask God to help you keep faith during a season when you can’t see Him at work in your life?
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Go back and listen to this series from the beginning: WT 342, WT 343, WT 344
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Today in Luke, we read about Mary sharing her good news with her cousin, Elizabeth. I love that Luke recorded this intimate look at two women’s friendship and the way they rejoiced with one another! As you listen and read this passage on your own this week - reflect and ask yourself, “Who do I run to when I want to celebrate?” and, “When life gives me a surprise, is my first instinct to praise God?”
Mentioned on this episode:
Go back and listen to this series from the beginning: WT 342, WT 343
Order Karen’s new book, Survival Guide to Motherhood, today!
We’re continuing to unpack Luke’s account of the Christmas story today in chapter 1 of Luke. As Karen breaks down the angel Gabriel’s visit to Mary and her response to him she draws out beautiful and practical truths we can learn from this section of Scripture.
Mentioned on today’s episode:
Luke 1:26-38 (NLT version)
2 Samuel 7 - God’s promise to David that his kingdom will never end
It’s easy as a mom to spend all of your time leading up to Christmas morning checking off a giant to-do list and completely neglect to set aside any time to focus your heart on what the point of all this fuss is - JESUS’s arrival! That’s why, over the next 4 weeks Karen is going to walk us through the Christmas story as recorded by Luke, and give you a slice of time that is just for your spirit. Today we are getting started in Luke 1 with the story of Zechariah and his wife, Elizabeth.
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Wire Talk James study - Week 1
The holidays are a special time of year but they can be extremely tricky for families. Whether you're traveling or staying home, struggling with your mother-in-law or your own mom, there’s lots of family time involved and that often leads to tension. Today Karen gives moms tips for having tactful conversations with grandparents, preparing our kids for situations that are outside the everyday, and being especially proactive as we parent at this time of year.
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Pre-order Survival Guide to Motherhood today!
Find resources for educating grandparents or other family members about your child's personality color HERE.
What topics aren’t sensitive when you’re talking to a teenager! Today Karen is tackling tricky questions, from how to talk about health issues and personality differences to sneaky behavior and dealing with aging parents. As always, Karen doles out her trademark practical wisdom with some gems for the teenage years!
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Karen’s new book is available for pre-order!
Take Birds on a Wire’s personality colors quiz HERE
Find more BOAW personality resources HERE.
Kathleen Edelman’s A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring
Technology is increasingly a part of every aspect of today's world and there is so much to navigate! From gaming to social media to smartphones and everything in between, today Karen is answering questions about how to set boundaries and how to think about the technology we allow into our homes and into our kids' lives.
Mentioned on today’s episode:
GABB Wireless - safe phones for kids
Wire Talk episode 116 with expert Tom Shefchunas
Right Now Media - video library for kids
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures (book about pornography for ages 6-11)
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures JR. (ages 3-6)
Toni Collier, founder of the women’s ministry, Broken Crayons Still Color, joins Karen today to talk about the message of her brand new book - Brave Enough to be Broken. We know you’ll enjoy hearing Toni’s personal story and resonate with the message that God uses all of our brokenness for His glory.
Be sure to grab a copy of Toni’s brand new book and share this episode with a woman in your life who needs some encouragement today!
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Connect with Toni on social media
If you have toddlers in the house, you know nap time is a BIG deal! Today Karen is fielding questions from moms desperate for a little afternoon peace. Listen in for tips on how to create a “quiet time” for your kiddo and how to navigate the tricky in-between season when they still need sleep, but just won’t surrender!
Disagreement is inevitable in any relationship and marriage is no exception. When you’re parenting together, and your husband has his own way of doing things, disagreements cause even greater tension. Today we’re answering your questions about conflict with your husband, everything from planning date nights and handling criticism to riding motorcycles with the kids!
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There's a reason they're called the 'Terrible Twos' friends! Whether it's daycare drop-off, not wanting to share, or just not getting their way, it can take us by surprise when our little angels find their voice and use it in a big way. If there's a toddler in your home, today's questions will probably sound familiar, so listen for a pep talk from Karen to stay the course, not give in, and keep up the good work, mom!
When you have elementary and middle school aged kids, the pressure and the busy schedule that come with pursuing athletics or the arts can really stress a mom out! Whether it’s pushback from your kids, or a strain on your schedule and your finances, today Karen gives advice on how to juggle it all and keep the most important things central in your world during this season of life.
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Megan and Leigh join us in the studio today to share how they see the world through the lens of a GREEN MOM. They'll talk about what makes motherhood easy for greens and how it challenges their temperaments; if you're a green, we think you'll hear a bit of your own experience in this conversation and if you're not green, we think it will give you valuable insights into the green moms in your world.
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I Said This, You Heard That by Kathleen Edelman